Yesterday was the first day back to school. After morning meltdowns, lost objects that needed to make their way into backpacks, and meal prep, Aiden started third grade at the elementary school, and Gavin began seventh at the middle school. In between drop offs, we had a PTA coffee to attend, as my husband is now the president. Then we ran to the bank to deal with the PTA accounts. That's when the day went from simply busy to crazy.
The car sprayed water on the windscreen. The only problem was the water was boiling temperature, which meant my husband pulled over and popped the bonnet. One of the hoses that connects to the radiator or the heater core sprang a leak. Colin, determined not to have a bad day, closed everything up, assessed the gauges, and continued to the bank. I called a friend who had borrowed our spare car to make sure I could pick it up, while Colin did the banking. Within 15 minutes, we had new issue: the second car wouldn't shift without "assistance". I was going to be driving a car with potentially no brake lights that required both hands to take it out of park. Joy. It could be dealt with. Colin needed to get to work. I needed to go eat. Kids were going to need to be picked up. We just had to play the hand we'd been dealt. Colin still refused to acknowledge that it was not a great day.
Colin, locking up after making up the two hours he missed at work in the morning, a long meeting for personnel issues, and a bunch of work related irritations, was still insisting that this was not a bad day. He came home, fixed the car, broke a new pay of the car, and had to go apologize to the kids for not being able to spend time with them. While he ate his dinner and talked to me, he still maintained the day wasn't bad. You have to admire that level of determination in the face of irritation, adversity, and nothing going right.
Colin's attitude is proof that we can simply refuse to accept our own reactions to negativity. We can acknowledge the setbacks, but we are not obligated to let them bring us down. The choice is ours alone.