Sunday, March 22, 2015

Unhealthy distractions

I think most of us have some unhealthy distractions we employ when we don't want to deal with our lives.  They can be things that seem pretty innocuous, except for the fact that they keep us from doing what we should be doing.  I read when I'm being distracted. I read all the time anyhow, but there is a subtle change in how I read that happens when I'm running away.

The subtly makes it easy for me to dismiss the behavior. It hides it from my husband.  I start getting obsessive about a type of story, an author, or series. I stay up reading. I use reading to avoid people and chores. I snap at anyone who dares to disturb my escapism. The house gets messy. I stop having conversations with people, I neglect relationships. I stop caring about things I normally care about.  From here, it's an easy slip into depression.

Coping strategies are great. They are the things that keep us sane when life falls apart, but we need to be very careful that we don't allow them to become unhealthy.   If something makes you feel good, that's wonderful, but if it starts to keep you from dealing things you need to get done (especially really unpleasant things that are going to come back and bite you in the backside), it's time to step back and decide if that coping strategy is really working. It might just be a way fro you to sweep problems under a metaphoric rug. We all know what happens when you sweep too much under the rug: it tends to get a little bumpy and trip you up.


  1. I like the image of the bumps under the rug. Very apt analogy.


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