Monday, June 4, 2012

Reminders- Domestic Abuse

A good friend of mine has had her marriage go down in flames this month.  The relationship had been unhealthy for a while, but she'd been willing to to try again with the help of a marriage counselor and some evidence that her husband wanted things to change as well.  None of that has happened and Friday night, she decided that she can't take it anymore.

She's been blamed for everything wrong with her husband's life, she's blamed for the children's behavior, and she pays nearly all of the children's expenses and provides most of their care.  Those things alone could be dealt with for a time, but she also feels physically threatened and emotionally abused, and that right there, is grounds enough to make a dramatic change.

My husband and I convinced her to call the local domestic abuse hotline for help, and my husband sat down with both of them Saturday night so that she could tell her husband that she needed time a way.  Afterwards, she spent the night in a hotel, and then last night, she slept on our couch.  Today, she headed home armed with information, a game plan and the knowledge that we are here for her and her kids.  Her husband may never lay a hand on her, but he's insulted, criticized, harassed, controlled and intimidated her, and that is abuse. She doesn't have to, and shouldn't put up with being treated like that.  No one should.

If you or a loved one is being abused, physically, sexually, or mentally, there is help available.  Everyone has the right to feel safe and respected as a human being.  If you need help, referrals, or advice, call the National Domestic Abuse Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE.    If you are in immediate danger, call 911.  If you think you've heard a domestic violence situation, please, please, call the police.  It's better to be wrong and embarrassed than to regret not taking action.

I'd like to apologize for the dual posts on Friday.  One was supposed to publish Friday, and the other on Saturday.  I have no idea how that happened.  Sorry.


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